While I’m not saying depression it’s a good thing to be proud of because it isn’t, it’s a mental illness and it should be treated.
But, what I’m saying is that the people who fight against depression usually haven’t realized they have some of the most extraordinary qualities we can have as human beings and don’t even know because they have the condition of thinking they’re worthless and seeing themselves broken without remedy.
Depression is tricky, it turns you into a bad narrator of your own story. And you get an idea of how bad you have it when you start to lie with the excuse of “I’m just tired” being this partially truth.
To lift up your spirit and show you that things are better than you think, I want to share with you what I’ve found are some of the best qualities depressed people have that if they wouldn’t have to fight depression everyday, they could change the world!
Most People Fighting Depression Have These Positive Qualities
In a world full of extroverted people and with a society that encourages being extroverted as the “way to go” for everything related to success and high-status people, there’s no wonder that introverts are labeled as being something negative. Nothing further from the truth!!
There’s a lot of misconception and myths surrounding this one. Like they don’t like to talk, it’s just that they need something meaningful to say and don’t like to talk for the sake of just filling the empty space with talking for no reason.
Depressive people have the tendency of expressing this kind of behavior too!
Another common misconception is that they don’t like people and prefer to be alone all the time. They do like people, but valuable people who are trustworthy and respect others with healthy boundaries and it’s with this kind of people they love to interact with.
Introverts are comfortable with their own thoughts and they just need to recharge themselves with a quiet time being alone.
To learn more about the misconceptions and why being an introvert is something positive read 10 Myths About Introverts from Creativity Post.
Having a lot of susceptibilities or a “thin skin” is sometimes what makes depressive people what they are… depressed. Sometimes you have a reason and you know what it is that is making you feel depressed, and sometimes you can’t explain with reasons why you’re feeling like crap all the time.
It is very likely that when you cannot explain “why now”, is because you have been exposed to a negative interaction, thought or feeling so minimal that it wasn’t perceived on your radar. That’s why you take time to rationalize this feeling to make the most sense of it and it’s frustrating when you don’t find that reason.
Depression makes you feel everything darker and worthless but sometimes somedays something good happens and you feel really good and excited for at least a short period of time. And this happens so suddenly that you cannot control it.
I just had defined you how highly sensitive persons usually react to negative and positive stimulus, the only difference with depression it’s that fills your mind with more of the negative stuff. And have a lot of hard work learning to fill it with more of the positive stuff.
This one brings me to the next item on my list…
Empathy is caring, empathy it’s the quality of being able to wear the shoes of others and know what they’ve been through in their lives. And usually depressive people see their depression as being a burden to their families, friends, and anyone that cross path with them.
The meaning of this is that you truly care how others feel, and because you truly care without fakery, your heart gets broken everytime you make (or even just think of making) them feel bad because you’re feeling the way you feel.
To simply explain the difference between High Sensitivity and Empathy is that the former just take how you feel and the latest takes this and how others feel too.
Everybody has a certain level of empathy unless NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is present. But people suffering from depression have proved me countless times they have developed a strong sense of empathy. They’re just focusing it in the wrong way.
But wait a minute. I feel like being dead on the inside, unable to feel any emotion at all. What about me?
Then I’d say that you’ve mastered denying your negative and positive feelings! In Psychology Today there’s an article called “A Link Between Empathy and Depression” that will help you to understand better what I’m talking about.
Intelligence (being smart)
I believe it is Buddhism that teaches it’s practitioners that “emotional suffering inspires us to seek wisdom and understanding on the meaning of our existence”
Well, depressive people are usually seeking some sort of explanation on “why them.” Why they’re suffering like there’s no tomorrow… eventually the introspection intended to understand their feelings better and how things work, leads them to become wiser.
But this is a spiritual approach on this matter. In a more scientific approach, some studies show the results of smart people losing their cognitive thinking (smartness if you wish) as a side effect of depression, you know, like the ability to concentrate in any given task.
There are mixed results from different studies, and let’s not forget that environment, childhood and character development will have an important say of someone becoming depressive over time.
But I can say by knowing a lot of depressive teenagers who are straight A’s that they are not faking their intelligence, they just happen to be experiencing life in a darker way because of their condition.
Click the link to learn more about the connection between intelligence and depression.
Besides having depression as a mental illness and identifying yourself as someone depressive you shouldn’t take this as your whole identity and remember that there are more inside you than just “being broke”, feeling like an “empty shell” and “falling into the abyss”
Being under the influence of any mental illness or a big trauma will give you a hard time realizing other qualities you might have. The ones that are positive, the ones that need nourishment from you because will lead you to happiness and joy in life.
I cannot say which ones you have, but I can hope that some of these resonate with you because I have learned by experience supporting friends with depression that most of them have these positive qualities and I can bet that with a little introspection, you’ll find that some of them – if not all – always has been part of you too.